Y2R Adventure 13: Speaking in Public

Picture borrowed from my church's website. I wanted to show you where I spoke. 

What I did:  Speak in public with poise and confidence

When I did it: Last weekend, 03/16/14

Notes:  This was at the end of my new-ish's church's traditional service. The adult Sunday School class' leader asked if I, as the newcomer to the class, would speak with him and another member being interviewed to help increase attendance among the adult classes. I resisted, but said yes when no one else would step up. Together, the two of us shy about public speaking not only pulled off a great bit about class, we told some jokes and made fun out of a few unscheduled interruptions. We even had some classmates punctuate our remarks with a few interjected comments.  

The Takeaway/What I learned: 

  • That people want you to be yourself, even/especially during public speaking. 
  • That a little planning is good.We discussed which interview question I'd answer ahead of time. 
  • Stick with what you know. Those few practice minutes let me remember a true story about me and my boys all going to Sunday School class for the first time on the same day and the shared nerves we had walking into a sea of unknowns. I like telling stories, so this calmed my nerves.
  • It's best to do something scary with a friend.
  • Challenge yourself. I speak up more frequently in larger and larger groups. Eventually, I'll hope to be an inspirational speaker.

Do Again?
I need the practice, so yes!

Rant:  None. I'm proud of myself for accomplishing this one.

Rave:  I did it!! I spoke in front of a crowd of about 75 people :)

Words of Wisdom:

If you feel destined for something and there's a component you're scared of, take baby steps. For me, it was speaking to 1 other person, then in 1 small group, then 1 large group, then publicly, then in a larger public forum. Baby steps gave me the confidence to get to the next level.


Wednesday's Wisdom from Joel Osteen

Notes from Joel Osteen's Message #609 Keep Your Walls Up:

Picture from About Our Ministry Section of www.JoelOsteen.com

Even with as much details as I've included, I believe you should listen to this message for the full blessing in your life. 

Proverbs 4:23 Guard your heart
Some quotes and summaries from the message: 
  • "Be proactive, not passive and put some walks."
  • "Your destiny is too important to let poison in."
  • "You can't put poison into you and over and over and expect to live a positive, faith filled life."
  • Too much juicy detail "Feeds our flesh but poisons or spirit."
  • "It's a lot easier to keep the poison out if you never hear it on the first place."
  • They wouldn't be talking about you unless you were exceptional, a winner, you're making a difference.
  • The more of God's blessings & favor you have, the more some people will dislike you and talk about you poorly. You didn't have to do anything wrong.
  • I may be misunderstood but it's not about me; it's about the blessings on my life.
  • If you don't learn to walk away from an offense, it can keep you from your destiny.
  • Don't try to prove yourself to other people and let God bring the RIGHT people into your life!
  • If you allow panic then worry then stress into your life, you won't make good decisions. God works when we're in peace.
  • Like his father practiced, shelve your problems and pray over them. Be still & trust God to work it out.
  • Don't give up your power by taking offense.
  • When we're really offended, everything is magnified.


Genetics or Generational Curses?

It was a dark and stormy life...

Sound familiar? It does to me. 
Or maybe the beginning of a fairy tale? Yeah, that too.
If you've live a dark and stormy life, you might wonder about your family, its heritage, karma? 
Is it possible you've been 

"No," you say as a list of all the bad luck runs through your head? 

Even if you're not superstitious, you might wonder about the "sins of the father" (Exodus 20:5 "punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me"). 

There might be so much unjust, unfair trials in your life. You've tried to be good and live right. Why doesn't your luck change. 

By GlacierNPS
 [CC-BY-2.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0)], via Wikimedia Commons

So, could your bad luck be the effects of a generational curse?
Pastor Joel Osteen talked about epigenetics in his a recent sermon. #582 Activating the Right Gene

I'd never heard of epigenetics, so I looked it up. According to the CDC's website,
"Epigenetics is the study of changes in phenotype caused by something other than changes in the underlying DNA sequence. Related projects include:
  • Studying how folic acid supplements can affect DNA methylation. DNA methylation is important for regulating gene expression.
    Determining whether children with birth defects show differences in DNA methylation compared with children who do not have birth defects."

You might have caught my adhd rant on Twitter the other day (#adhdsucks). Well, let me make it clear: 


Most days it drains the dregs of my energy. That day, Wells Fargo Advisors had added to the stress of tax prep. Combine that with the constant beat down of the adhd demons at homework time and you have the perfect storm. Their mistake was the straw that broke the camel's back. Sure, it was a discrepancy between what I'd asked to have done and authorized them to do, and what was done to automate my IRA. And that, my friends, is why I go over my tax submissions with a magnifying glass before I turn them in to the accountant to finish. (If you don't let someone else do them, I always used TurboTax. They matched what I did by hand each time I checked. I always found cheaper on Amazon (Please show your support of GGG by clicking through my amazon affiliate links. Thank you!) See, tax time is my financial review time.

So what does this have to do with generational curses, you say? Well, the inherited ADHD makes this consistent effort (and every other one) over a long span of time so hard to keep up with. If only I'd checked my account sooner/more often/regularly, I'd have caught it earlier. If only I wouldn't get so far behind on the daily work, life, wife stuff. If only I were better at keeping it together (as in no more ranting), then maybe my son would be doing better at juggling school with life. Between both our adhd brains, my son's common core course load + his adhd disorganization and my own adhd hot spots, I balance about as much as I can handle most days.

But that's genetics, not curses, right?
What if my family's ADHD gene is reversible through supplements and hard work? What if  we could stop the next generation from having to fight those messy adhd traits? What if  we could "cure" adhd for our future generations?

It would be a prayer answered positively, ie. a miracle.

I'm open to another miracle. Are you?

Since God helps those who help themselves, I'll do the best I can and let you know. Until then, another supplement gets added to the mix to try to keep GGG's household on an even keel.

As for you, I want to challenge you to do what you can. You never know what major ripples a seemingly insignificant change my cause.

So chin up. There is hope for you and me.

I leave you with this verse:
Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that ye may abound in hope through the power of the Holy Ghost. Romans 15:13 KJ21 (biblegateway.com)

What verse, quote, saying do you turn to when times get rough? What generational curses might be in your present from some act done in the past? Please comment below.

Blessings. GGG


Interviews So Far

Happy 1st Day of Spring!

After you catch up on these great interviews, here's a funny video to help you understand spring (http://time.com/30230/springtime-is-finally-here-as-vernal-equinox-arrives/)

Then it's your turn. Cut and paste the questions below then email YOUR answers to me at donna@starryskiesmedia.com. Many thanks, GGG.

Q:           Introduce yourself.        
Q:           Do you consider yourself spiritual or religious? Why, or why not?
Q:           What life roles do you find yourself living at this moment in time? Which one(s) surprises you?
Q:           Do you consider yourself “Goth” (see http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Goth andhttp://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Christian-Goth ) or “Gothic” as interested in the paranormal and curious about the darker side of life? Explain. What word(s) do you use to describe this/these traits? 
Q:           What are the most pressing issues facing people today?
Q:           What keeps you going when you times get hard? (People, places, things, philosophy, quotes, songs, foods, etc.)
Q:           What is your hope for the future? 
Q:           [What question should I have asked you? Insert here]

In order, some of the coolest people in life and on the internet.

(Sample interview from me, GGG.)


Interview with Felix Onyi


Interview with Midas of Fedora Photo


Interview with Psychic Medium, Justin Chase Mullins


Interview with Shannon Morrow, Psychic, Clairvoyant+


Happy St. Patrick's Day!

By graymalkn (Flickr.com)
[CC-BY-2.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0)], via Wikimedia Commons

Luck o' the Irish to you!

Enjoy St. Patrick's feast day celebrating with some Irish goodies. As wikipedia says, 

"Lenten restrictions on eating and drinking alcohol are lifted for the day, which has
encouraged and propagated the holiday's tradition of alcohol consumption."

Want to know more about St. Patrick & St. Patty's Day? Click the links below:

  1. St. Patrick WASN'T Irish! His history with Ireland will leave you saying "Wow!" http://www.ibtimes.com/st-patricks-day-history-traditions-9-surprising-facts-you-may-not-know-about-st-patrick-irish
  2. What's your Celtic sign?                                                              http://www.tarot.com/astrology/celtic-signs
  3.  Top 10 facts about the day                                           http://www.express.co.uk/fun/top10facts/465252/Top-10-facts-about-St-Patrick
  4. Forgotten Facts                                                                 http://www.irishcentral.com/roots/craic/Forgotten-facts-about-St-Patricks-for-March-17.html

Interview with Shannon Morrow, Psychic, Clairvoyant+

Shannon, with co-founder of Wellavision & partner , John

Q: Introduce yourself.
A:  Hi!  I'm Shannon Morrow.  I keep myself busy as an artist, musician (percussion, drum circle facilitation, improvisation, and composition of unique soundscapes), meditation coach, clairvoyant reader (psychic), and intuitive development teacher.  I live in Durham, NC  with my love, John, and our 3 dogs, Lovey, Claude, and Maurice.  I enjoy vegan food and trips to the beach.  I love sun and warm weather.  In my next lifetime, I hope to master the harp, capoeira, and levitation.

Q: Do you consider yourself spiritual or religious? Why, or why not?
A:   I am vibration, energy, light, attention, awareness, and consciousness. I am composed of denser vibrations (the body) and lighter vibrations (the aura, my thoughts, etc.).   I experience  my spirit as the light, imagination, creativity, wisdom, truth, and ability to love within me.  I acknowledge this same light and vibratory quality in all things.  I am not beholden to any religious belief system.  I experience communication with God, and I know that I am how God manifests on the physical plane.

Q: What life roles do you find yourself living at this moment in time? Which one(s) surprises you?
A:    I'm actually playing with the role of “homemaker” right now.  Never thought that would be a role I'd be interested in.   I'm also a “Mom” to my dogs.  I'm a teacher and coach.   I'm a young person and an aging person at the same time.

Q: Do you consider yourself “Goth” (see http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Goth and http://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Christian-Goth ) or “Gothic” as interested in the paranormal and curious about the darker side of life? Explain. What word(s) do you use to describe this/these traits? 
A:  I'm always interested in finding the “lighter” side of life, rather than the “darker”.  That's why I devote so much time and energy to my psychic practice, which is just awareness of energy and the ability to access my own answers rather than rely on information provided by others who have accessed their own answers (we all have our own truths).   I've always been intigued by the paranormal, including aliens, UFO's, spirit guides, and  spiritual or energetic healing.  

Q: What are the most pressing issues facing people today?
A:    Most of the people I work with are struggling to understand their meaning and purpose in the world, to create healthy boundaries for themselves,  and to find balance between their inward (receptive, intuitive), and outward (logical, assertive, analytical) selves.  Stress is a big one, obviously, and I believe that people are starting to wake up and realize that politicians and governments will not solve the world's problems, no matter who is in office in what part of the world.  That realization can create additional stress and confusion, as people struggle with what our next step in creating order, stability, safety, and harmony will be. 

Q: What keeps you going when you times get hard? (People, places, things, philosophy, quotes, songs, foods, etc.)
A:  Meditation is my golden key, along with my partner John, my dogs, and a few good friends and family members.  Experience teaches me that I will always be okay.  I remind myself of the many times I wondered whether my needs would be met.  My worries were always in vain.  Worries are “strawmen” to me.  I have them, but I have awareness that they are all stuffing with no substance.  I also sing quite a bit.  Silly songs for the dogs, made up on the spur of the moment:  ex:
Dogs why you scratchin'
It's no the fashion
You oughta be askin' for treats!

You're always itchin'
Quit that twitchin'
You oughta be beggin' for treats!

Q: What is your hope for the future?
A:  More beach time?  More sun?   I'm really ready for people to start exploring their own solutions our food, energy, and cultural/religious “hate” problems, rather than relying on laws, regulations, governments, police, military, corporate and religious leaders to make choices for us .  I guess my greatest hope is that we can all begin to release some of the fear that keeps us separated so that we can begin to work together to create prosperity, good health, and loving relationships for all.
What is our next step?  It might begin with saying “I don't know.   I'm open to possibilities, and I'm noticing that my neighbors are not all murderers and theives, so I think I'll be okay no matter what.”

Q:  How do you attain enlightenment?
A:  Listen to some some corny jokes and experience the “lightness” that vibration of amusement creates in your mind, spirit, and body!

My website:
Wellavision Healing Arts
“Turn off your television and tune in to your Wellavision!”
Psychic Readings, Meditation/ Intuitive Development Coaching and Classes
3500 Westgate Dr., (in the Westgate Plaza Office Park)
Suite 504, Office A

Durham, NC  27707

Note from GGG: I can attest that she is a phenomenally talented, trustworthy psychic/medium/clairvoyant/meditation coach. Call her if you'd like some clarity in person or by phone.

I'd love to hear from you, too. Yes, you! Please copy questions, answer them & email them to me at donna@starryskiesmedia.com . 


Y2R Adventure 12: Carving Jack-o-Lanterns

What I did: Carve Pumpkins into Jack-O-Lanterns

When I did it:  October 2013

Notes:  My husband usually helps, but I took the leading role from pattern selection (helping them weigh pros and cons) to carving supervision to carving help.

The Takeaway/What I learned:   There's more fun in participating than watching.

Do Again?:   Absolutely.

Rant:  Clean up? If you save a disposable party tablecloth, and use it to carve on, you can throw the pumpkin innards into the grass recycling and the rest into the trash.

Rave:  Helping 1 child at a time makes for a longer, but less chaotic, carving time. And you get more one-on-one time. 

Words of Wisdom:   Use the whole creative process to gain wisdom into your child's thinking and personality.  


The Fasting & Contemplation Begin

Today is Ash Wednesday, the 1st day of Lent (http://godgirlgoth.blogspot.com/2014/03/happy-mardi-gras-fat-tuesday-last-day.html). If you go to church today/tonight, chances are ashes will be put on your forehead in the sign of the cross, as a sign of penance and your faith.

There's a whole lot more to this, so I send you to someone who knows more than me. Read it here.

For us, we celebrated with a Nawlins' inspired menu of 5 new recipes. All but the pralines turned out well; pralines were too hard and sticky.

We each listed what we were considering giving up. Here's a few things to inspire your choice, if you haven't already decided. And if you're not religious, I ask you to consider the practice for yourself.

I will give up using my 1/3 of the kitchen counter as my personal, very messy desk. So yes, I did take the rest of the pile and shove it into the kitchen desk, but no matter. My area is crystal clean.

Hubby will give up desserts except on special occasions.

One son will work on his "public" speaking shyness by giving up his one-word answers to normal questions from friends and family. The other will give up--well, he hasn't said, but I'm hoping it's the tiresome nagging and bargaining with homework and reading time. It's making  me gray.

So if you are going to give up something, what is it?

Here is one tidbit I didn't know--there are FEAST days on Sundays! From the "here" above link, here is the fasting relief clause:
"Of the 46 days until Easter, six are Sundays. Sundays are not included in the fasting period and are instead "feast" days during Lent." 


Happy Mardi Gras / Fat Tuesday / last day of Carnival!

Happy Fat Tuesday, Mardi Gras & last day of Carnival!

I first learned about Mardi Gras during my high school French classes. Sounded like a good excuse to indulge in some good food and drink...and somehow has morphed into the debauchery that typically occurs in New Orleans. They're just following the pagan and Roman traditions.

I suspect you may treat yourself to excesses today, and perhaps imbibe a little too much. Please remember the virtues of moderation...and be safe.

"Eat, drink and be merry for tomorrow..."

...shall be Lent.
As a fairly newcomer to the true meaning of Lent, here's my take on it. 
I highly encourage those with more experience
to please speak up, esp. you pastors.

 What's Lent?
A period of  40 days leading up to Easter, 
from Ash Wednesday to Easter Sunday.
During that period, Christians are asked to give up something
to show penance and as a spiritual practice.
Many people fast, or eat less. (See website below.) 
As winter turns to spring, the Lenten season encourages us 
to go deeper spiritually, deepen our faith and 
unburden ourselves of at least one thing that is hindering
our progress.

Spiritual challenge accepted. 
What will I give up? What hinders my life?
I use the kitchen counter as my desk space.
I'm a piler, not a filer, so it's ALWAYS a mess. 
It affects those around me; it affects negatively my frame of mind.
I'm always reminded of the work left undone. For all intents and purposes,
the kitchen area is my office. I can't escape even when I should be winding down the day.
I will work these forty days to shift my work & reminder space to an area that's all mine, a true work space, 
and implement practices that help me better contain the areas of my life.

How about you? Are you giving up something for Lent? What and why? 
I'd love to hear your comments.

For more, check out these websites: